Karol Markowicz: Being a Stay-at-Home Mom Today Is a Luxury

KOOIMAN There are more ░░░░░░░░ 5 million stay at ░░░░░░░░ moms in the United ░░░░░░░░ today One of them ░░░░░░░░ telling the world Being ░░░░░░░░ with the kids is ░░░░░░░░ luxury A New York ░░░░░░░░ op ed by Allison ░░░░░░░░ says Luxury is a ░░░░░░░░ word Yes it is ░░░░░░░░ true that my husband ░░░░░░░░ I are lucky that ░░░░░░░░ has been able to ░░░░░░░░ and keep a job ░░░░░░░░ can pay for us ░░░░░░░░ But a luxury is ░░░░░░░░ nonessential item An indulgence ░░░░░░░░ I do is essential ░░░░░░░░ next guest freelance writer ░░░░░░░░ mother Karol Markowicz disagrees ░░░░░░░░ here to debate her ░░░░░░░░ the moms is Melissa ░░░░░░░░ Good morning Thanks for ░░░░░░░░ with us guys GERSTEIN ░░░░░░░░ morning KOOIMAN First Melissa ░░░░░░░░ think this is a ░░░░░░░░ phrase even to say ░░░░░░░░ stay at home is ░░░░░░░░ luxury GERSTEIN A 100 ░░░░░░░░ All mothers are working ░░░░░░░░ Let s get that ░░░░░░░░ OK I think luxury ░░░░░░░░ indulgences It s designer ░░░░░░░░ it s second homes ░░░░░░░░ s vacations Those are ░░░░░░░░ And staying at home ░░░░░░░░ a personal choice It ░░░░░░░░ a personal choice within ░░░░░░░░ family with your financial ░░░░░░░░ It s not a ░░░░░░░░ at all KOOIMAN Is ░░░░░░░░ kind of just a ░░░░░░░░ that you decide to ░░░░░░░░ and interpret this statement ░░░░░░░░ You know the luxury ░░░░░░░░ is not the material ░░░░░░░░ that you have The ░░░░░░░░ is having the choice ░░░░░░░░ have those items And ░░░░░░░░ this case the luxury ░░░░░░░░ deciding I would like ░░░░░░░░ stay and home with ░░░░░░░░ children That s a ░░░░░░░░ and a choice that ░░░░░░░░ many women don t ░░░░░░░░ Study after study shows ░░░░░░░░ s usually the poor ░░░░░░░░ the rich who get ░░░░░░░░ option of being a ░░░░░░░░ at home mum Generally ░░░░░░░░ middle class doesn t ░░░░░░░░ to say Oh I ░░░░░░░░ like to stay home ░░░░░░░░ my kids You can ░░░░░░░░ Your household depends on ░░░░░░░░ incomes So the luxury ░░░░░░░░ having the option KOOIMAN ░░░░░░░░ do you feel like ░░░░░░░░ is more of a ░░░░░░░░ problem that stay at ░░░░░░░░ moms look almost like ░░░░░░░░ class citizens to some ░░░░░░░░ Is that part of ░░░░░░░░ you indecipherable GERSTEIN No ░░░░░░░░ think it s a ░░░░░░░░ It s a choice ░░░░░░░░ your family I think ░░░░░░░░ s a choice within ░░░░░░░░ means I also think ░░░░░░░░ when you are at ░░░░░░░░ you re working nonstop ░░░░░░░░ re running a household ░░░░░░░░ Of course GERSTEIN And ░░░░░░░░ if a working mother ░░░░░░░░ also wants to stay ░░░░░░░░ home yes choice sometimes ░░░░░░░░ or the luxury can ░░░░░░░░ a choice Yes I ░░░░░░░░ that But I also ░░░░░░░░ maybe the stay at ░░░░░░░░ mom wants to go ░░░░░░░░ work too Everyone has ░░░░░░░░ different situation a different ░░░░░░░░ I think the bottom ░░░░░░░░ is we re all ░░░░░░░░ trying to raise great ░░░░░░░░ for the future We ░░░░░░░░ need to support each ░░░░░░░░ and stop throwing words ░░░░░░░░ about the luxury of ░░░░░░░░ at home the working ░░░░░░░░ and the workforce and ░░░░░░░░ stay at home mom ░░░░░░░░ of these words are ░░░░░░░░ so silly The bottom ░░░░░░░░ we are all just ░░░░░░░░ to make it through ░░░░░░░░ day without dropping the ░░░░░░░░ KOOIMAN Exactly GERSTEIN I ░░░░░░░░ really KOOIMAN We started ░░░░░░░░ story earlier today and ░░░░░░░░ ve got a lot ░░░░░░░░ feedback from our viewers ░░░░░░░░ that I want to ░░░░░░░░ a few of those ░░░░░░░░ on Facebook says let ░░░░░░░░ get your reaction Carol ░░░░░░░░ says Not a luxury ░░░░░░░░ it is an incredible ░░░░░░░░ if available to an ░░░░░░░░ It is beneficial to ░░░░░░░░ to have a stay ░░░░░░░░ home parent Of course ░░░░░░░░ MARKOWICZ Right Stay at ░░░░░░░░ parents are used to ░░░░░░░░ maligned It s not ░░░░░░░░ Clinton talking about that ░░░░░░░░ stay home they bake ░░░░░░░░ and have teas Or ░░░░░░░░ Romney being told that ░░░░░░░░ never worked a day ░░░░░░░░ her life So they ░░░░░░░░ very defensive and I ░░░░░░░░ that It just that ░░░░░░░░ defensiveness is unfortunate because ░░░░░░░░ truth is they do ░░░░░░░░ some think that many ░░░░░░░░ don t have and ░░░░░░░░ s the choice to ░░░░░░░░ with their children So ░░░░░░░░ I understand that you ░░░░░░░░ that being a stay ░░░░░░░░ home mom is a ░░░░░░░░ no it s not ░░░░░░░░ luxury I work hard ░░░░░░░░ is saying that they ░░░░░░░░ t I ve been ░░░░░░░░ have been work outside ░░░░░░░░ mom I have been ░░░░░░░░ work at home mom ░░░░░░░░ of them are easy ░░░░░░░░ the truth remains that ░░░░░░░░ a stay at home ░░░░░░░░ is a luxury in ░░░░░░░░ current you know modern ░░░░░░░░ And they should appreciate ░░░░░░░░ KOOIMAN Yeah GERSTEIN But ░░░░░░░░ m going disagree with ░░░░░░░░ because you know what ░░░░░░░░ happy home is a ░░░░░░░░ mom OK And if ░░░░░░░░ likes going to work ░░░░░░░░ day maybe that s ░░░░░░░░ luxury for the mom ░░░░░░░░ Right crosstalk It seems ░░░░░░░░ bigger problem is using ░░░░░░░░ word luxury GERSTEIN It ░░░░░░░░ a loaded word Check ░░░░░░░░ out KOOIMAN Melisa and ░░░░░░░░ thank you so much.